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Same-sex Marriage November 24, 2009

Posted by jetson in Personal.
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Apparently, if two consenting adults of the same sex are in love, allowing them to legally marry is going to add to the destruction of the moral fabric of our society. In fact, our moral fabric has been in a steady decline in this country, according to some people, and allowing same-sex marriage will somehow make it worse. The only reasonable argument I have heard is that “homosexuality is not what God intended.” I say it’s a reasonable argument because if one believes God created humans, and that homosexuality is sinful and wrong, at least you’re sticking to your belief system, even if you can’t prove God exists. But I can’t just accept that things are getting worse just because someone say’s it is, or because of some religious beliefs.

Homosexuality has been documented as far back as 2400 BCE, according to this article. The same article states that “there is no relationship between parents’ sexual orientation and any measure of a child’s emotional, psychosocial, and behavioral adjustment.” Put simply, until there is evidence to the contrary, there is no reason to believe that same-sex parents are different than heterosexual when it comes to the well-being of the children. If your personal religious beliefs don’t allow you to accept this, then perhaps you should re-examine those beliefs.

As I discussed this issue with some friends over lunch, the conversation went towards the limits of what society will accept when it comes to things like who should be able to legally marry whom – or what. Yes, if we allow a consenting adult to legally marry another consenting adult of the same sex, then shouldn’t we allow a grown man to marry his dog? Of course we should! I am certain that many dogs would LOVE to say “I do” in a formal ceremony with their human male master. And I’m sure the dog would be more than willing to engage in sexual intercourse as well, because that’s what dogs want – isn’t it? Silly? No, ridiculous as a comparison. But what about multiple spouses, or what about an age limit for marriage? Shouldn’t we allow a forty year old male to marry a twelve year old girl?

Again, this is not a good comparison at all when we are talking about the legal rights of consenting adults who consciously love each other. If we allow a forty year old male to marry a twelve year old girl, how do we know that the girl consents? We have to use age as a measure of maturity in consenting to marriage – given that marriage is an adult activity in our society. The marriage of young adults, perhaps from age sixteen or so, is not something most people agree is a good idea, but it does happen. In my personal opinion, if eighteen is the legal adult age, it should be the earliest one can engage in legal marriage without parental consent.

There is certainly evidence that human females have been sexually active in different societies as soon as they reach puberty. If a female is physically capable of bearing a child, then there would be little reason to wait until a certain “acceptable” age to engage in sexual intercourse. Somewhere along the way though, societies applied their own rules and laws which were probably designed to protect young, immature females from being sexually abused by dominating males. It became unacceptable. Today, it is considered inappropriate and usually illegal for an adult male to engage in sexual intercourse with an underage female, even with consent.

I don’t think there is a good argument at all to prevent consenting adults of the same sex to legally marry. Six states in the U.S. already allow same-sex marriage, and more are considering allowing it. The barriers are falling apart because there is literally no “good” reason to prevent it. There is certainly no evidence that same-sex couples are harmful to others, nor are they any more or less harmful if they happen to have or raise children. Same-sex couples can legally adopt in every state except Florida, so what is the harm in allowing them to legally marry?

If anyone wants to comment on this issue, I’d appreciate a well thought out argument that shows where same-sex marriage is bad for society. Live and let live, I say.



1. Brent Roth - May 27, 2010

If I had a penny for every time I came here… Great writing.

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